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1. Stay hydrated! Even though they are liquid, sodas and coffee are not hydrating. So, drink lots of water to stay hydrated. Hydration is a major factor in staying well and healthy!
2. Juice half an organic lemon or lime and add to a glass of warm purified water. Drink this first thing in the morning before anything else goes into your stomach. This will help cleanse your organs, give you a vitamin C boost and help alkalize your system.
3. Make your healthy breakfast and/or lunch your largest meals of the day. You need this to give your body sustainable energy throughout the day.
4. Eat healthy fats. Fats are good for you in the right form, quality and quantity. These “good fats” will actually give you more energy, help you lose weight, fight inflammation and support your brain function.
5. Exercise at least 50 minutes 3 times a week. This helps you get oxygen flowing throughout your body and cuts down on stress.
6. Take time for yourself. Take a long hot bath, a walk, a nap, a massage or manicure. Even if it is just for 15 minutes, nurture yourself, breathe deeply, and think of peaceful thoughts. Play some uplifting music. It is amazing how rejuvenating this can be!
7. Volunteer. There is no better way to invigorate your life than to do something in a volunteer way. No matter how low things seem to be, when you volunteer, it puts everything into perspective and can empower you! It is a great activity to do as a family or a group. There are so many worthy groups out there that could use some help. If you are lonely, it is a great way to get out, meet some new friends and have some fun. When we give, we always get much more back in return.

Remember, if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others. So, be patient and kind to yourself during the holidays.
I wish you and yours a merry holiday season! Love, Nancy
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From the Natural Epicurean Academy of Culinary Arts
www.naturalepicurean.com
Last week I spent some time teaching nutrition at the Natural Epicurean Academy in Austin, Texas. I had a marvelous time and tasted some delicious food while I was there!
Here is a ymmy recipe that I received from them and I thought I would share this with you! Quinoa is a whole protein and it is gluten free. I like to use it instead of rice. You cooked it about the same, but takes a little less time!

Ingredients:
1 ½ cups spring or filtered water
1 cup organic quinoa
¾ cup organic pecans, coarsely chopped
3 –4 organic scallions, sliced in thin rounds
1/3 cup organic parsley, finely chopped
1/3 cup organic celery, finely chopped
¼ – ½ cup organic, dried, unsweetened cranberries, finely chopped

Dressing:
2 tsp. organic cold pressed, extra virgin olive oil
1 tsp. unrefined cold pressed sesame seed oil
1 T. fresh organic lemon juice
¼ tsp. organic umeboshi vinegar
2 tsp. organic rice vinegar
dash ground organic black pepper

Directions:
1. Bring the water to a boil.
2. Stir in quinoa.
3. Cover, turn to low and cook for 25 minutes.
4. Place pecans in 350 degree F. oven for 10-12 minutes or until lightly toasted. Set aside.
5. Combine all dressing ingredients in a large mixing bowl. Add scallions, celery, parsley, and cranberries and set aside.
6. When the quinoa is done, transfer is to a glass bowl that can handle hot temperatures and fluff it with a fork. Set aside to cool.
7. Once the quinoa is cooled, add the dressing mixture and the toasted pecans to it and stir well.
8. Salad is best if set aside for at least an hour to allow flavors to blend. Serve cool or at room temperature. This keeps well in the refrigerator for a couple of days.
Enjoy!
Love, Nancy

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I attended the kick off fundraiser for The Larry Hagman Foundation, which will benefit children’s charities. He callas it J.R. Gives Back to Dallas. Evil does Good. It was a perfect evening for the outdoor event. Linda Gray and Patrick Duffy were there to cheer Larry and his new foundation on! Linda looked gorgeous up there with Patrick as they told stories about Larry and their relationship on the show. Asleep at the Wheel played wonderful music. It was a delightful evening.

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I had never been before and it was wonderful. I met some terrific people there, like Drew Waters and his darling daughters. I got to sit with my dear friend, the incredible Larry Hagman, who is back in town filming the second season of (the new episodes of the drama) Dallas.

The Cirque show was mesmerizing.

A few years ago, even though I was on my way to Austin to see my daughter graduate from UT, I decided to do something fun and exciting, on the way there. I saw that there was a place just outside of Austin where you could take trapeze lessons. So, I signed up!

This picture is of me (Nancy) on the trapeze!

That man is getting ready to catch me and swing me back over. It was amazing how much exhilarating it was. I had felt so amazingly alive after that two hour lesson.You wouldn’t know it, but I have a feat of heights! I had decided to face my fear. There was a time, after the first attempt, where i was visibly shaking. Then, each time I went up, it got a little easier. I am pretty sure I used every single muscle in my body. I was sore for a while after that, but it was a good sore muscle feeling.

Once in a while, we need to step out of our routine and try something new and exciting. It is almost like a vacation and I think it keeps us young! I realize from that experience, just how hard those performers must work and train. I also know just why people do go off to join the circus!

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I just thought I would keep you up on what I am doing this week.
I spoke at Metro Cooking Houston last week and it was a really
exciting and a fun event.I spoke to the media at a special event and
then presented 4 talks on the healing diet and organic gardening.

At night we went out to dinner and when we went to Bistro 19 and Charles
Clark’s Ibiza. Charles is an amazing chef, who told me he loved my book.

Both restaurants were superb. Charles Clark is opening up a restaurant here in Dallas soon.
Here is the information for my talks this weekend. I give 2 thirty
minute talks on the healing diet and one on easy organic gardening
and I sign my books for anyone who wishes to buy them.

This event is huge in Washington DC, where they have had the event for
12 years. This was the second year it has been in Houston and it is
the first year in Dallas.

It is a huge food festival! I was really impressed with the quality of
the event.

Here are the links. It is at the Dallas Convention Center this
Saturday and Sunday.

Metro Cooking Dallas with Nancy Addison

http://www.metrocookingdallas.com/nancy-addison/

Schedules:

http://www.metrocookingdallas.com/tasting-entertaining-workshop-schedules/

The home page is:

http://www.metrocookingdallas.com/

I hope you go out and have fun this weekend, where ever you are! Live life to the fullest!
Love, Nancy

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Many illnesses are actually a result of dehydration. When we feel thirsty, we are already dehydrated. I always drink a glass of pure mineralized water as soon as I wake in the morning. When we wake up, our body is empty, so our body will absorb whatever we ingest like a sponge. Therefore, a glass of high-quality, mineral-rich water will be utilized more efficiently.

I try not to drink it with meals, because it can water down the digestive enzyme juices, making it harder to digest the food. It is best between meals.

Fereydoon Batmanghelidj MD studied water while he was a prisoner in an Iranian jail.

He treated and cured about 3,000 prisoners, using water and a little sea salt to treat what he called chronic intracellular dehydration. He found that most people are sick because of dehydration. He wrote
many books on the subject after his release. The “water cure” that he prescribed is:

1. Sufficient water. Drink an ounce of water for every 2 pounds of body weight daily.This means that someone weighing 200 pounds should drink 100 ounces of water a day.

This is inaddition to any other beverages. Consume water first thing upon getting up in the morning and then drink it all day long on a continual basis every two hours.

2. Sea salt. Put 1/8 teaspoon of sea salt on the tongue with every 16 ounces of water. This is a key component in the “water cure.” This is really important for people suffering from allergies
or asthma; the salt acts like an antihistamine.

Almost all public water supplies have added chemicals to the water supply, including sodium fluoride and chlorine, both of which are poisons.

Chlorine was the first poison developed for warfare. Chlorine also destroys the Vitamin E in the body and the good probiotics in the intestines. “Industrial chemist J.P. Bercz, PhD, showed in 1992 that chlorinated
water alters and destroys unsaturated essential fatty acids (EFAs), [14] the building blocks of people’s brains and central nervous systems.”135

While showering or swimming in chlorinated water, the chlorine soaks into the skin cells. Our skin is our largest organ. That is why the patch is used to give medicines to people; they absorb directly into the
skin and from there into the blood stream.

Research linking swimming in chlorinated pools to cancer and other medical conditions continues to make headlines. The latest such studies come from the Centre for Research in Environmental Epidemiology
in Barcelona, Spain. They indicate, among other things, that swimming in a pool with chlorine may increase the risk of developing cancer and damage lungs.136

Sodium fluoride and fluorosilicic acid are common chemicals added to our municipal water supply. Studies were done for tooth decay prevention with calcium fluoride. The companies that had a by-product of sodium
fluoride (that can be contaminated with lead and arsenic as well) are companies that make aluminum and fertilizers.

Sodium fluoride is the fluoride that the government adds to the water supply. This is added on the pretext that it is good for our teeth and health, but dental studies were done using calcium fluoride, so this is a different type of fluoride from what is being added to the water supply. Fluoride has been used in Chinese medicine as a tranquilizer and also in many places as a rat poison.

According to Paul Connett, PhD, “Fluoride is a cumulative poison. On average, only 50% of the fluoride we ingest each day is excreted through the kidneys. The remainder accumulates in our bones, pineal gland, and other tissues. If the kidney is damaged, fluoride accumulation will increase, and with it, the likelihood of harm.”137

Fluoride affects the thyroid gland and all our enzymatic systems. Side effects from fluoride include weight problems, damage to our immune system, and other serious disorders. These chemically derived fluorides are completely different from naturally occurring fluoride.

Fluoride affects different people and ages differently. According to Connett: The level of fluoride put into water (1 ppm) is up to 200 times higher than normally found in mothers’ milk (0.005–0.01 ppm) (Ekstrand 1981; Institute of Medicine 1997). There are no benefits, only risks, for infants ingesting this heightened level of
fluoride at such an early age (this is an age where susceptibility to environmental toxins is particularly
high).138

Sweden, Denmark, Holland, Germany, Belgium, Norway, and France do not put fluoride in their water. Some of these countries have made it illegal to add to the water supply.

Huge numbers of Safe Drinking Water Act violations are reported each year by water treatment facilities. Many areas have old, dirty water pipes, and even some really old lead pipes, transporting the water. New

Scientist reported that a comprehensive survey of US drinking water showed that it contained an array of hormonally active chemicals like MTBE (methyl-tert-butyl-ether), a chemical found in fuel and a potential
human carcinogen in high doses, and atrazine, a US pesticide that was banned in the European Union. Atrazine has been linked to reproductive problems in lab animals and is also linked to both breast cancer
and prostate cancer.

In 2010, National Geographic reported that drinking water in schools in 27 states was contaminated with toxic substances including lead.139 In 2009, the Associated Press analyzed data from the EPA and found the
public water for about 100 school districts contained lead, pesticides, and other toxins.140 If it is being pumped to schools, then it is probably being pumped into homes and businesses as well. Because of the state of our municipal water supply, a good water filter can be a beneficial purchase. I recommend purchasing one for the whole house. When we shower, we can absorb as many toxins from the water as we can from
drinking about eight glasses of water, so a shower or bath filter is recommended as well.

The Reverse Osmosis is an good choice for a water filter system. When drinking purified bottled water, you can add some minerals (like a pinch of sea salt) to the water. When you do this your body won’t need to pull minerals from your body in order to process the water.

Bottled water comes in a variety of choices. The EPA standards of the Clean Water Act do not apply to bottled water; there is very little regulation on bottled water, which is why I recommend having your own filter.

What about “vitamin waters”? Many vitamin waters contain all kinds of ingredients, like high-fructose corn syrup, artificial color, preservatives, and even caffeine. Make certain to always read ingredient lists
before you buy anything. Packaging can be very misleading.

You can also hydrate with good, high-quality fruits and vegetables that are high in natural water content, like cucumber, watermelon, celery, and carrots. They contain pure water that is rich with vitamins and minerals. Watermelon is 90% pure, clean water. When you have these real, whole fruits and vegetables as juices, you are getting natural electrolytes as well as hydrating fluids.

Food for thought? Water for thought?

By Nancy Addison

Copyright@nancyaddison2012
Sources:
135 Hattersley, Joseph G. “The Negative Health Effects of Chlorine.”
Available at findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0ISW/is_2003_May/
ai_100767859/ or on Dr. Mercola’s website at
www.mercola.com/Downloads/bonus/chlorine/default.aspx?s_
kwcid=TC|15735|chlorine||S|b|9483696664&gclid=CMjlxLKX6qw
CFciC5Qod8y75Nw.
136 Popke, Michael. “Studies Reveal More Chlorine Risks, Including
Cancer.” Athletic Business website. September 14, 2010.
athleticbusiness.com/editors/blog/default.aspx?id=236.
137 Connett, PhD, Paul. “50 Reasons to Oppose Fluoridation.” Endnotes
367 St. Lawrence University (Canton, N.Y.). These “50 Reasons” were first
compiled by Paul Connett and presented in person to the Fluoridation
Forum in Ireland in October 2000. The document was refined
in 2004 and published in Medical Veritas. See: www.fluoridealert.
org/50reasons.htm. In the introduction to this 2004 version it was
explained that after over four years the Irish authorities had not
been able to muster a response to the “50 Reasons,” despite agreeing
to do so in 2000.
137 Ibid.
138 Barclay, Eliza. “What’s Best for Kids: Bottled Water or Fountains?”
National Geographic Daily News. March 3, 1020. news.national
geographic.com/news/2010/02/100303-bottled-water-tap-schools/.
140 Associated Press. “Drinking Water at Schools Contains Lead, Pesticides,
Other Toxins: Study.” New York Daily News. September 25, 2009.
articles.nydailynews.com/2009-09-25/entertainment/17930709_1_
safe-drinking-water-act-water-supplies-five-schools/2.
141 “Bottled Water: Pure Drink or Pure Hype?” Natural Resources
Defense Council website. www.nrdc.org/water/drinking/bw/bwinx.
asp.
142 Ibid.

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Finally, “How to be a Healthy Vegetarian!” Both the health care provider and lay person have an easy to understand resource in reversing the course of preventable disease. Increasing lifespan and quality of daily activities through better decision-making in daily dietary choices is a recipe easily afforded in this time.

This book has been endorsed by two doctors and Larry Hagman from the show ” Dallas!” Jan Miller, the book publicist, said it contained enough information for 3 books! It is a comprehensive health encyclopedia for anyone who is interested in health, healing, nutrition and cooking. Dr. Hall said it was a great resource book for medical professionals! Dr. Massad said the information on sugar was the best information he had ever read on sugars and sweeteners! Almost half of the book contains fabulous healthy recipes! Put in your order today!

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(Click here to visit Amazon.com for orders outside the U.S. and Canada.)

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• mock spaghetti with marinara sauce,
• mock parmesano cheese, which includes coconut kefir,
• and a delicious desert of Date Nut Torte!

You won’t believe how delicious and easy these recipes are! You can become the savviest chef for your family and friends. This is fun and healthy.

A great present to give to anyone trying to adopt a healthier diet. Say yes and order it today.

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Don’t miss the cherry sorbet desert, it is a cool, healthy, refreshing desert that just about everyone will love!

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Making Healthy Eating- Delicious!

Would you love to lose some weight? Could you use more energy?
Do you want to raise the healthiest children possible?

Then this is the seminar for you!

In this seminar, you will hear how to:
How to eat for super health!
How to get more energy and feel better!
This seminar can help you save money on health care costs!
What is the real deal about raw food and why is it so popular.
How to pick the best fats, sugars and carbohydrates for you and your family!

I am giving a 2 1/2 hour health seminar on Sunday, July 22th in Dallas, TX at the Hyatt House Hotel. Come and learn about how to lose weight, heal your body, gain more energy and much, much more!
This seminar is free, but donations are appreciated and 100% tax-deductible! All the money donated for this event will go to the International Committee of the Red Cross.
Just last year, my daughter was serving in the US Peace Corps in Mali. Since her return last July, a military coup in the South and a rebel takeover in the North have occurred in the country, in addition to widespread famine and drought. The circumstances are quite serious. Many people are in need of food, clean water, and medical supplies, and the Red Cross is one of the few humanitarian groups braving the dangerous political situation to help distribute supplies and medical aid. I will be taking donations and 100% of them will go to to the International Committee of the Red Cross. The event is free, but a donation is appreciated! You must register on line on my website at www.organichealthylifestyle.com. There is limited space; so sign up today!
Come, learn, have fun and enjoy a few hours that can help you become healthier in so many ways! You will become a much savvier grocery shopper too! Make your reservations today! I will also be signing my new book for anyone who wishes to purchase one. I hope you will come and join us in helping these sweet people who have come under desperate times. I only have limited seating, so sign up today!
I am switching my shopping cart right now to infusionsoft and I don’t have it completely set up; so just email me at nancy@organichealthylifestyle.com and let me know if you wish to come to my event! I will be thrilled to have you! Sincerely, Nancy

Where: Hyatt House Information:
Hyatt House/Lincoln Park
8221 North Central Expressway
Dallas, Tx 75225

When: Sunday, July 22, 2012

Time:  Event from 2- [4:30] PM!

Nancy Addison CHC, AADP
Nutrition and Health Counselor
Healthy Cooking &Raw Food Instructor
Member of the National Speakers Association
nancy@organichealthylifestyle.com
www.organichealthylifestye.com
The Main Ingredient is Always Love!

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Raw and living foods are foods that have not been heated over 105–118°F. It’s basically eating food in its whole real form, without damaging the true nature and nutrition of the food. The enzymes in the food retain much higher nutrient levels in this form.

We need enzymes for digestion and nutrient absorption. Live enzymes in foods help us digest efficiently and completely. Remember, the key to health is a clean and nutrient-rich body.

Raw and living foods are the best form of foods for optimum health and wellness. These foods will feed the body on a deep, cellular level without stressing it as much as cooked food does. Cooked foods are dead. They don’t supply any live enzymes.

When foods are devoid of living enzymes, it means the body has to work much harder and supply more of its own enzyme store to digest the foods. Pulling enzymes from storage and using them to digest enzyme-empty food makes the body work harder compared to eating foods that supply their own enzymes ready for digestion.

In addition, raw and living foods have more nutrients available for the body during digestion. One of the most vital nutrients is sulfur, which is often overlooked. Sulfur is critical to our body’s metabolism, specifically the catalytic function of large numbers of enzymes. Without the proper levels of sulfur, our bodies can’t build good healthy cells, and this leads to illness.

Although sulfur is present in most organically grown fresh food, it is mostly found in fruits, vegetables, and some grains. Due to its unstable nature, the sulfur is quickly lost from food when it is processed, cooked, or stored. That’s another reason having a diet high in freshly picked, raw, unprocessed, whole, organic food is vitally important.

Raw, living, unprocessed foods are also highly alkalizing. The body’s pH (acidic balance) should ideally be 7.2–7.3. However, most people with chronic or acute diseases usually have overly acidic bodies with a pH well below 7.3. Eating foods that are highly alkalizing can help the body maintain a healthier pH.

Our well-being depends on the quality of our food. Food starts to die the moment it is picked. Food we buy at the supermarket is probably at least five days old. The fresher the food, the more alive it is. The enzymes will be more vibrant and rich in nutrients. Locally grown or home-grown, fresh, organic fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and grains will give the body more nutrient-dense, enzyme-rich food to process, absorb, and turn into the body cells. It is all about energy. Fresh food is more vibrant.

A diet with a ratio of about 80 percent raw to 20 percent cooked food will work for most people throughout most of the year. I say this because, I think taking anything to extremes aren’t always the best way.

If you add warm foods to your diet in the cool months, this can be supportive to certain parts of the body. For instance, the thyroid is better supported when cruciferous vegetables such as broccoli and cauliflower are lightly steamed or sautéed instead of eaten raw. This is because these foods—as well as yams, Brussels sprouts, and cabbage—contain natural chemicals called goitrogens that can interfere with thyroid hormone synthesis. Lightly steaming or cooking these vegetables deactivates these chemicals. Adding foods like cooked whole, sprouted grain rice can work as a tonic for the spleen and pancreas.

Enjoy your raw foods, but listen to your own body and be mindful of how they affect it. Your goal is to create balance in your health, your diet, and your life, too.

We are, after all, what we eat.

by Nancy Addison CHC, AADP
copyright@nancyaddison2012

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What is that recipe? It appears that it is happiness.

My friend Katie Irwin, from Vancouver told me about this video. It is all about a positive outlook on life. Shawn Anchor says that with positive psychology, we can reboot our brains. When we start believing in ourselves and just allowing ourselves to be happy, success will come!

So, this is great. Take a set time this week, to do something you love and allow yourself to be happy and have some fun! What do you love and haven’t done in a long time? What do you love to do and would love to do? What makes your heart sing?

Think about that and then make it happen! You will feel better and start to reboot your brain! My friend Katie, says to” write this down” and “put it on your fridge.”

“Happiness comes BEFORE success.” Ditch the stress and release it to the universe, never to return.

Breathe deeply and tell yourself that you can do it!  Focus on the present moment. Smile, it will actually trick your brain into thinking you are happy.

Allow yourself that happiness and see what comes next! It may surprise you!

Lots of love to you!

Nancy

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Relationships are a vital part of our lives and can directly impact our health and well-being. Relationships are fragile and need to be nurtured and protected. With all of the present-day craziness of: politics, the economy, the weather, internet relationships, isolation because of electronics, text messaging, etc., it can put a strain on any relationship. Miscommunication or disagreements can arise. We can all use some help, in keeping our lives connected in a healthy, happy way!

These tips might come in handy, if you find yourself in a challenging situation or disagreement with someone you love and care about.

Fighting Fair #1: Avoid Blaming or Yelling

It is such a sad situation when a spouse is blamed. It can create a defensive behavior, and it doesn’t solve any problems and it escalates the argument.

Yelling can escalate things. When our emotions are running high, it is easy to fall into the yelling mode, because you may not feel like you are being heard. But I learned once that the first person to raise their voice is automatically the loser.

I personally have been subjected to verbal abuse in my life and It has been harder to overcome than the physical abuse. It gets deep down into your subconscious and can undermine your self-confidence. A healthy relationship does not have room for this type of abuse. Seek professional help if you find yourself in this type of situation.

Fighting Fair #2: Avoid Using Degrading Language

Avoid insults, put-downs, name-calling, or cussing. When you put your partner down or insult their character, it shows disrespect for his or her dignity. This is verbally abusive behavior. It can harm them much more than you even imagined. In a healthy, positive relationship, we want to build up our partner’s self-confidence and self-esteem, not break it down, even when having disagreements.

(If you find yourself in a situation where your partner is not willing to address the fact that they are using degrading or verbally abusive language directed at you, you may want to seek professional help.)

Fighting Fair #3: Avoid Using Force

When someone resorts to physical violence against someone they love, it is devastating to the relationship and the person who is being abused. It is unacceptable behavior to threaten, use force, or even threaten verbally, if this happens, it is important to seek professional help. Everyone has the right to feel safe and a right not to feel in danger. So, pushing, restraining, breaking things are all violence and should not be a part of a relationship.

I personally have been subjected to physical violence and it is not a part of a healthy relationship. Seek professional help if you find yourself in this type of situation.

Fair Fighting Fair #4: Avoid the Subject of Divorce

When arguments arise, try avoiding using manipulative behavior, like threatening to leave the relationship. This can ruin the trust in a relationship and relationships are built on trust. This type of threat can create fear in your partner’s mind as to how committed you are in the relationship.  This mistrust can make it harder to resolve the issue at hand and possibly cause more problems later.

Fighting Fair #5: Be Yourself, Describe How You Feel

When arguing it can be easy to. try to interpret the other person’s feelings and make assumptions that may or may not be true. So, stay in your adult, be strong, but calm and define your own feelings and how the situation is making you feel.

When a partner tries to control someone else by telling them how they should think or feel, it puts that other person in a defensive position and distracts from the true underlying issue at hand. Instead work on the issue and how to solve the problem and meet each of your needs.

Fighting Fair #6: Stay Present

When we are fighting, it can be easy to bring up past hurts or situations, but resist this and focus on the present issue and leave everything else out of it. Try to stay focused on resolving the problem at the moment.

Fighting Fair #7: Listen and Take Turns Speaking

Be truly present and truly listen to the other person. Then take turns and allow each of you to speak without interruption. It is important that everyone feels they have been heard and that each person has been given an equal opportunity to explain their viewpoint on the subject. It is all about fairness and equality.

Fighting Fair Rule #8: Take A Time Out to Think Things Over and Give Each Other Some Space

When we get into an argument, it is difficult to truly look at things calmly and without the emotional input.

So, after you have both spoken your thoughts, agree to take a hour or some time (at a minimum 30 minutes), to do something else, think about the situation and meet up again a little later to discuss ideas on resolving the issue. Sometimes we just need some time to reflect and think before we come to a calm, well thought out resolution that can serve both person’s needs.

In Conclusion

Having grown up in a family of lawyers, rules can help situations with emotions be handled in a more sensible method without being exposed to degrading, humiliating, childish or cruel behavior.  That is one reason the court systems run in a more organized fashion, allowing each party to present their case and hopefully find some resolution.  I’ve found that taking the time out and also possibly writing down the pros and cons of each situation can also help you see what you have in common and possibly agree with in a situation.

I wish you well in your relationships and I hope this helps.

Sincerely, Nancy

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Nancy Addison is a certified health counselor, as well as a certified practitioner of Psychosomatic Therapy with the Australasian Institute of Body-Mind Analysis and Psychosomatic Therapy. She also holds a lifelong teaching certification in the state of Texas. Nancy has written award-winning books on health, nutrition and cooking.

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The information from Nancy Addison and Organic Healthy Lifestyle LLC is not offered for the diagnosis, cure, mitigation, treatment, or prevention of any disease or disorder nor have any statements herein been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA). We strongly encourage you to discuss topics of concern with your health care provider.

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